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The dangers of "I'd be happy if..."
If what? And then?  There's always something - something to be discontent about, something to wish were different, something that's too something and not enough whatever else.  In a world that is the slave of entropy and where thermodynamics is law, there is no such thing as perfection. Conversely, there is always something to be happy about. It may not be sunshine and roses, but there is air and water and sky and earth -  and though the proportions of the aforementioned may not be precisely that which is desired, it's nothing to sneeze at.  Too often we take for granted the billions of things that have to go just right in order for us to wake up in the morning, even though I'd really prefer to sleep in. The number of infinitesimal enzymatic processes going on within you and on you and around you at any given moment that proceed unnoticed and don't careen off into utter chaos is staggering. Now, perhaps this is putting too fine a point on things, but perhaps the distinction here is really between happiness and something else.  Joy, perhaps.  Contentment, even. I'm not zen enough, or foolish enough, to believe that the appreciation of my next breath is enough to keep me on cloud nine, but it gives me something to sing about, even when I'm singing the blues.  


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trista_zevkia
Apr. 12th, 2012 04:36 am (UTC)
Is that a "life is pain, madame, anyone who says differently is selling something" tag I see?

I read somewhere, and wish I'd bookmarked it, that depressed people tend to have a more realistic worldview than cheerful people. But, yeah, I'd rather be happy, and do try and find joy where I can =)
antesqueluz
Apr. 14th, 2012 05:43 pm (UTC)
It is indeed just such a tag. :-)

I think happiness is a moment-to-moment thing, and I agree that it's important to find joy where you can.
smudley
Apr. 12th, 2012 06:26 am (UTC)
{{HUGS}} I really do think happiness, or contentment, is found in the littlest things, more so than the big ones, really. And a lot of times (not always) they are things we take for granted but should be so grateful for: a warm bed on a cold, rainy day, a nutritious meal that fills our tummies, comfortable shoes, something nice to read--the *ability* to read. Then there are the bigger things: people and/or companion animals who love us, etc. I think Sheryl Crow summed it up nicely: it's not having what you want, it's wanting what you got. :) Now, I just need to remind myself of that whenever I start to whine.
antesqueluz
Apr. 14th, 2012 05:49 pm (UTC)
That's what this post is for me - a reminder to look for joy in the small things. I reminder I need quite often at times. *hugs*
angus_honey
Apr. 12th, 2012 10:05 pm (UTC)
Sweetie...that ain't no lie...
antesqueluz
Apr. 14th, 2012 05:49 pm (UTC)
:-)
persnickett
Apr. 13th, 2012 04:21 pm (UTC)
Ha. As a psych major in undergrad, I have to say trista_zevkia is right. Being clinically depressed at the time I read it made it all more depressing to read. Go fig.

And I was one of those people who often think about what a mind-fuck of a miracle things like a circulatory system are too, and how lucky I am all of it works - even the parts I don't necessarily need like all my toes (and no extras) and how I don't even need corrective lenses. Being appreciative didn't help me feel any less shite back then either. I'm glad it works for you though. And I'm glad to hear I'm not the only one feeling appreciative out there. There's something to be said for that and that alone. (man when I saw the body worlds exhibit that was a mind blower too...I've been showing the old machine a *little* more respect since then but...probably still not enough!)
antesqueluz
Apr. 14th, 2012 06:24 pm (UTC)
Being appreciative doesn't always make things seem better. But for me it's a reminder that things won't always be this way and that there is something beyond me and my issues. It's moment-by-moment, you know? But hanging my hopes on some nebulous future source of happiness always disappoints.

I am pretty awed by the wonders of nature, though. The more I learn the more amazing it all becomes. Hope all the 'Snicks are well, including the 'Snicklet. Talk about a miracle!
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